The No Contact Rule
The not-so-simple answer is yes and no! Whether or not you perceive that the No Contact Rule (NCR) works for you, depends upon your expectations. Whilst it is perfectly natural to want to get back with your ex, there is no guarantee that this will be the outcome that you will achieve by using this method. Alas, this is often the main reason why people initiate no contact. They want to get back with their ex and that is perfectly understandable.
Unfortunately, there is a lot of misinformation and misunderstanding about what NCR actually is. This is why it is open to claims that it is manipulative and emotionally abusive. You must remember that NCR is all about YOU! It is intended as a coping mechanism to support you through an emotionally turbulent time. It helps you recover, as painlessly as possible, from a breakup. It gives you some breathing space to help you think more clearly and maintain your self-respect. It also helps you move forward with your life, as opposed to stagnating, whilst you wait for your ex to come to his or her senses.
No Contact Rule To Get Your Ex Back
Nonetheless, reconciliation is often a by-product of NCR. As you become stronger and more independent, your ex begins to see you in a new light. This typically makes you more attractive and a challenge to be conquered once more. However, any underlying problems that existed in your relationship will still be there. You need to address the cause of the breakup or else you are merely delaying the inevitable. Some relationships are dysfunctional, or even toxic, and this will not alter as a consequence of maintaining no contact.
No Contact After 30 Days
Some of you get to Day 30 and ask, ‘now what?’
That ‘now what?’ generally means that you haven’t heard from your ex and want to know why. You’ve been counting down the days with anticipation but there has been no movement. What is it that you need to do next, in order to get them back?
If you are still counting the days, then you are not over your ex. So, you begin another cycle of 30 days. As I explain in my Kindle book, 30 Day No Contact Rule, we are all unique and ‘one size doesn’t fit all.’ One day however, you will wake up and realize that you have not thought about your ex for several hours or even several days. You will also begin to lose count of the number of days that you have gone without any contact. No contact ends, when you don’t realize that you are even doing it. Your ex becomes part of your past, and not your present, or future.
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