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  • February 20, 2019

How To Stop Cheating





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Do you want to stop but don’t think that you can? Want to discover how you can stop cheating? Read my 7 step guide on how to stop cheating and become faithful again.

The 7 Step Plan on How To Stop Cheating

How To Stop CheatingAre you cheating on your partner?

Do you want to stop but don’t think that you can?

Maybe you’ve been caught being unfaithful.

Maybe, your infidelity remains unexposed but you want to save your relationship.

Either way, you want to stop cheating.

Is it possible to stop cheating?

Yes, of course it is. But only if you really want it and are prepared to work at it.

Below is my 7 Step Plan to help you stop cheating.

Success or failure is entirely in your hands.

Step 1 – Be Honest With Yourself

At the risk of sounding inane, you need to ask yourself why you want to stop cheating. What is your motive for change?

Is it because you are afraid of losing your partner?

~ or ~

Is it because you have been given an ultimatum and feel that you have no choice but to stop cheating?

It is critical that you fully comprehend your motives for wanting to change.

If, in reality, you would prefer to maintain the status quo, then your attempts at transforming your character are likely to be half-hearted and full of resentment. If change is forced upon you, then it is highly improbable that you will succeed. You are fighting a losing battle.

To conquer your desires, you must want to change.

Step 2 – Understand Why You Cheat

In “Can You Ever Trust A Cheater” I broadly describe two types of Cheaters.

These are the Habitual Cheater and the Accidental Cheater.

Although both types commit adultery, their reasons for doing so are entirely different. T

he adulterous relationship is inevitably fulfilling a ‘gap’ in the Cheater’s relationship.

Identifying this missing component is a prerequisite to understanding why you cheat and consequently, how you can stop cheating.



Step 3 – Put Yourself In Your Partner’s Shoes

Imagine swapping places with your partner right now. How ‘good’ is your betrayal making her feel? Numb? Empty? Sick? Is her body aching?

Is her face bloated and red from sobbing all day and all night?

Is her head spinning, unable to think properly?

Does she struggle to get out of bed in the morning and face another day?

Just ask yourself. How would you feel if someone ripped your heart out?

If you have an ounce of empathy in your body, it is often easier to stop cheating because you acknowledge the full extent of the hurt and damage that your adultery is causing to your loved ones.

Step 4 – Identify What You Risk Losing By Cheating

Analyzing what you risk losing, by continuing to cheat, may lead to a sudden epiphany that you must stop cheating. The fall out from your cheating may extend a lot further than you first imagine. Aside from your partner, relationship, children, family and friends, financial consequences inevitably arise from any break-up.

Do you really want to lose the family home that holds so many memories? Are you honestly prepared to trade in your car for an older, cheaper model? Can you forgo your gym membership etc? What about your health? Do you want to catch an STD? Are you happy to father an illegitimate child?

Then there’s the damage to your professional integrity. If you’re having an affair with a work colleague then there is also the potential to lose your job.

How about your reputation in the community. How do you feel about tarnishing that? Neighbours and acquaintances judging you and shunning you in the street?

Is your affair worth all this?

Do you really want to be the guy who threw it all away?

Step 5 – Avoid Temptation

Is He Cheating?

Is He Cheating?

You must have absolutely no contact with your ex lover. Change your phone number, email address and block her on social media sites if you have to.

However, if you cheated with a work colleague, and many do, then clearly this could be something of an impossibility. If this is the case, then you need to keep any contact to an absolute minimum.

In this situation, you should actively pursue alternative employment. Not only will this demonstrate to your partner that you are serious about changing, it will also be a relief to her every time you leave for work in the morning.

If you are having trouble finding another job, then investigate the possibility of transferring to another office, department or building.

Of course, temptation is all around us. Step back from flirting with members of the opposite sex. This is what got you in to trouble in the first place remember!

Drink in moderation. Alcohol reduces sexual inhibition so be on your guard at functions when your partner is not present.

Limit the number of times you attend social events, without your partner being present.

Step 6 – Arrange To See A Relationship / Marriage Counselor

A professional counselor will provide you with impartial advice and strategies that can help improve your relationship in the long term. You will not be judged. Seeing a counselor may also help increase your awareness as to why you strayed in the first place. As has already been identified in Step 2, uncovering this detail is essential in order to help you stop cheating again in the future.

You do not need to take your partner with you to your counseling sessions. Indeed, if you want to stop cheating then it is probably better if your initial sessions are entirely undertaken on a one-to-one basis.

Later in the counseling process, however, it would be beneficial for you and your partner to attend the counseling sessions together. Infidelity is a sign of underlying problems in the relationship and that is something that you will both need to address.

Step 7 – Don’t Expect It To Be Easy

If you formed an emotional attachment to your lover, then you may be finding it extremely difficult and painful, not to cheat with her again. Even if there is no physical intimacy between the two of you anymore, you may still remain unfaithful, albeit unconsciously, by virtue of your thoughts. It is human nature to grieve the loss of a relationship, even an adulterous one.

“30 Day No Contact Rule” provides some invaluable advice if you are struggling to get over your lover.

However, please bear in mind that in your case, you are not seeking a reconciliation, but a permanent split. Remember that this is a life changing decision and not a race. It takes time to heal and ultimately to change your life for the better.

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Online Extramarital Affairs





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Did you know that your partner could be conducting a virtual affair right under your nose? In the comfort of your own home to be precise! Find out if an online extramarital affair is jeopardizing your relationship.

Online Extramarital Affairs

Online Extramarital AffairsOnline extramarital affairs are a relatively new and easy way for people to cheat. Social media, instant messaging and chat rooms mean that we can now ‘meet’ infinite numbers of new people, by simply switching on our computers.

Even though those, who are participating in this virtual fantasy, may not even consider an internet affair as being unfaithful to their partner, an emotional bond is generally formed between the cyber lovers.

But, if  no physical contact occurs, can these types of interactions really be classed as affairs?

Don’t be lulled into a false sense of security though. The pain of discovering that your partner has a cyber lover can be equally as painful as traditional infidelity. Often, the fact that these cyber or virtual affairs are carried out in your own home can make the betrayal even harder to bear.

Worryingly, online affairs are frequently a precursor to extramarital affairs.

Online Affair Definition

Online infidelity is a romantic or cyber liaison that is facilitated by social media sites, chat rooms, instant messenger, dating websites or virtual games (eg Second Life and World of Warcraft). Those who participate in online affairs often don’t consider it as cheating on their partner due to the virtual, ‘fantasy’ nature of the interaction.

However, the ‘fantasy’ element of the relationship makes it almost impossible for the ‘real-life’ partner to compete. The cheating partner is effectively creating his or her idea of the perfect lover.

They also tend to experience guilt to a far lesser extent than they would in traditional, ‘physical’ transgressions.

The Online Affair

The internet affair typically begins with an intimate and passionate exchange of messages or emails between two strangers. This divulgence of desires inevitably leads to a heightened state of arousal. Some virtual lovers then take the next step and begin interacting via web cam.

The relationship becomes increasingly suggestive as the couple can now speak and also see each other. This often leads to one or both parties exposing themselves and committing intimate acts.

Is an Online Affair Really Cheating?


Many cyber lovers do not believe that they are being unfaithful ‘for real.’ Understandably so, some may say, as  no physical contact occurs. So, how can these types of interactions possibly be classed as affairs? How can someone be cheating, when the other person is hundreds or even thousands of miles away?

Their ‘real-life’ partners, on the other hand, would beg to differ.

Although no physical cheating occurs, an emotional relationship is formed which is both intimate and often explicit. This is typically achieved by an exchange of dialogue and, more often than not, by undertaking physical acts which are mutually viewed via webcams.

Don’t be lulled into a false sense of security though. The pain of discovering that your partner has a cyber lover can be equally as painful as traditional infidelity. Furthermore, the fact that these cyber or virtual affairs are carried out in the shared home can make the betrayal even harder to bear.

Flirting and being intimate with another person is cheating, no matter how you dress it up. If a webcam is involved then the cyber lovers may even have exposed themselves to each other whilst committing acts that should only be undertaken within the confines of a relationship .

How can that not possibly be cheating?

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