Is the No Contact Rule Right For You?
No contact rule is for you if you can answer ‘yes’ to the following questions:
- Have you been dumped?
- Do you feel as if your heart will never heal?
- Is your stomach constantly churning at the thought of your ex being with someone else?
- Are you experiencing a range of emotions such as pain, anger, bitterness, resentment or even jealousy?
- Do you feel as if you will never be loved again?
- Do you believe that you will never love anyone else as much as you love you ex?
- Are you so overcome with emotion that you feel unable to cope with day-to-day life?
If so, and it may be of little comfort to you, but thousands of other people are feeling exactly the same way as you do right now. The good news is that there are positive steps that you can take to help pull yourself through this heartache.
If you’re struggling to come to terms with the pain, anger, bitterness and resentment caused by a breakup, then the 30 Day No Contact Rule is for your you.
Coping with a relationship breakup is never easy. Initially, all you want, is to be reunited with your ex. You worry about them finding someone else or maybe you know that they already have. This throws you into a state of blind panic and irrational thoughts begin to set in. No matter how much support you have, dealing with the fallout of a breakup is a very lonely and traumatic experience. Sadly, even your closest family and friends will eventually tire of your tears and emotional meltdowns. You need to regain control of your life and, the sooner you do this, the sooner the pain will begin to subside.
It is perfectly natural to crave a reconciliation with your ex. We all want something, or someone, we cannot have. Many people use the no contact rule to get their ex back. The first question that typically asked is; “Will it bring my ex back to me?”
So, does it work?
Do these relationships always last?
No, not always.
The problem with feeling in such a vulnerable state is that you begin to idolize your ex. You forget their faults and annoying habits and place them on a pedestal. However, commonsense dictates that if you do not resolve the underlying problems that caused the breakup in the first place, then your relationship is doomed to fail. Therefore, I have to be perfectly honest and say that ‘no contact’ may not bring your ex back to you, even if you have read elsewhere that it will. Mainly, ‘no contact’ is a strategy to help you recover from a breakup and move forward with your life.
Using the no contact rule is also a useful tool to use if you want to escape a toxic or abusive relationship. Anyone who has ever dated a narcissist will understand how difficult it is to achieve closure from such a relationship.
The important thing to remember is that you approach no contact with the correct frame of mind. Not easy when you are in such an emotional state I appreciate. However, it is important to stress that you are not doing this to punish your ex. You are doing this to get through a painful period in your life. At some point in time, you will also reach a point where you will be in a position to truly forgive your ex for the trauma that they caused you. Just remember that you are doing no contact for yourself and not as a means of retribution.
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